Caribbean Singles

This past weekend, a group of guys I know decided to host a
weekend extravaganza for the large numbers of single, Caribbean
professionals living here and abroad. It was a launch for an online
dating service catering to these single professionals. So they
hosted a website and a weekend of parties, and invited people from other islands, and typical diasporic mainstays like NY, London, Miami etc.

The website if very interesting for many reasons. For one, the
variables of descriptors that you have at your disposal to describe
yourself are generic to say the least. They include: adventurous,
flirty, and funny. What do these mean anyway? And of those that
have used the match up system, I know one girl whose 10 matches
included 8 women, one man who looked like Santa Claus, and one
replica of her psychotic ex boyfriend. Another one listed her phone
number and received calls from creepy men in the middle of the
night.

However I did check out the website and it is typical. 70% of the
postings are women. Women who posted pictures of themselves in
bathing suits, with their body contorted to show of their best
sides. And as always, the men were few and far between, and most I
know have a main girlfriend already who they'll never leave.

Dating in Jamaica is hard. Believe me. I know. I have stories that
could be episodes of Sex and the City. There are so many more women
here than men. Dating anywhere is difficult. Last week I watched a
special Dateline on AIDS in African American communities and was
shocked and saddened by what I learnt. Everywhere there are more
black women than men, and when you add professionalism to the mix,
the statistics are even worse. So as a result, eligible black men
in the US and all over the world are capitalizing on their
disparity in number by maximizing their sexual partners. It is
simple supply in demand...and a dangerous game of Russion Roulette.

Though two nights of parties (the beach fete and the pajama party…
both parties that encouraged attire that would not inspire
commitment but more promiscuity and continued singledom in my
guesstimation) were successfully completed, the major party is
rescheduled for next weekend-post Ernesto. I’ll let you know how it
goes. Though I am realistically optimistic that I will NOT meet my
soul mate there.

Comments

[DC]

Mikaila,

You don't mean to suggest that the gender imbalance makes it hard to find a man in Jamaica do you? Somehow -- especially given your previous postings -- I don't think you have a shortage of would-be suitors. Perhaps ones that you would actually condsider dating, but not would-be suitors simpliciter. But then this could be the case even if the gender imbalance were reversed, and so the actual gender imbalance is not necessarily the problem.

But I think you have a good point about aids and 'eligible black men,' at least in the Carribbean and the Afro-Caribbean diaspora. When you read some of the media reports about Aids in the Caribbean and the Afro-Caribbean diaspora you might be lead to think that promiscuity has run amuck, but that wasn't my experience in my own small island and isn't my experience where I live now (in a 'diasporic mainstay,' as you put it). There, and here, I think the rising aids rates is more a function of the promiscuity of a few select professional and/or popular men (and of course the women that sleep with them), rather than a more widespread promiscuity. Some of the people in the Aids-prevention communinities in our communities might do well to take note of this fact when developing their prevention policies.

One more thing. I think your soulmate would be a lucky guy. :)

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[Sandra Sealy]

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Blessings,
Sandra

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